Updated: Jul 7, 2020
As summer approaches, our attention diverts to ‘beach bodies’ or a ‘summer slim-down’. This year, I challenge you to focus on the sexiest part of your body, your mind. The rest will come.
Over 60% of women feel that a guy’s six-pack is the least important thing about them, just to show you that I have done my research.
I am all about physical fitness, wellbeing and training hard - when it comes from the right place. Physical fitness is always more successful when used as part of mental fitness routine. Workouts that derive from the intention of extreme physical changes are very different from those who feel the mental health benefits and reap the physical benefits as a result of their genuine enjoyment of a well-balanced lifestyle.
Mental and physical health are integral in long-lasting relationships - especially for your relationship with yourself.
So, how do we create a positive relationship with our mental and physical health?
1. Be calm
So often, the decision to change your body derives from a dislike or a negative interpretation of your physical appearance. Being overly critical and creating a binge relationship with health and fitness will probably do nothing but feed the dieting industry. If you are interested in approaching gyming from a positive place, read on. Step away from your judgement, delete it. Would you judge someone else in the same way you are judging yourself? Explore a new way of thinking by asking yourself kinder questions. Why do you dislike elements of your physique? Why do you think you need to improve or change yourself? Understanding this can help you create a fresh approach. Then you can set, and smash realistic goals.
2. Be curious
It’s time to stop letting other people decide what ‘attractive’ should mean to us. Even in 2020, the general implication from the media is that ‘six-pack is sexy’. For models in the media, it is their full-time job to stay in that shape, and more often than not they are still ‘enhanced’ in post-production. Choose curiosity over conformity. Question everything - who are the people responsible for creating these messages? Is their idea of beautiful really the same as yours?
3. Be healthy
Try to focus on improving your physical health rather than your physical appearance! What can I eat to make me feel better? What can I strengthen to support my physical wellbeing? How can I treat my body now, to make ageing less debilitating in later life? Adjust your expectation of perfection and your goals. There is no such thing as a post-production person. Wear your scars and stretchmarks with price, and aim for happy and healthy.
If you would like to explore outlooks from this article, take a look at The Life Class by Jacqueline Hurst.